Believing you have to be a “super mom” or “super dad” can lead to stress, anxiety, and burnout. It can make you feel like you’re never doing enough, even when you’re giving your best. The pursuit of perfection affects both your wellbeing and your relationship with your children — so it’s time to rethink this idea and remember that doing your best really is enough.
Stop and Think
Where did this idea come from? Think about the first time you felt you had to be a “perfect” parent. Was it from books that set impossible standards? Advice from well-meaning family and friends? Or maybe social media, where every family seems to be living like the Joneses.
Ask yourself — who told you this was reality? Many of our ideas about parenting are shaped by unrealistic expectations and what we see around us. Even good advice can set impossible standards.
Understand Why You Feel the Need to Be Perfect
Be honest with yourself — are you trying to meet others’ expectations? Worried about being judged? Understanding why you put pressure on yourself can help you release it.
The “super parent” myth is just that — a myth. No one has it all figured out. By noticing and questioning unrealistic expectations, you can lighten the stress you carry — most of which comes from yourself.
Simple Ways to Let Go of the Super Parent Myth
Set realistic expectations. Accept that you can’t do everything perfectly. Focus on what really matters — providing a loving, supportive home. Kids won’t remember the messy kitchen last Thursday, but they will remember the laughter.
Prioritise self-care. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish — it’s essential. You can’t care for others if you’re burnt out. Make time to rest and recharge.
Practise self-compassion. You encourage your children to learn from their mistakes — do the same for yourself. Recognise that you’re doing your best and that mistakes are simply part of being a parent.
Seek support. Friends and family can offer reassurance. Sharing your experiences can help you realise you’re not alone — and yes, it’s completely normal if your child insists on wearing a Halloween costume in July. 🧛☀️
Limit social media. Remember that social media shows people living their “best life,” not reality. If scrolling makes you feel inadequate, take a break. Behind every “perfect” post is probably a tantrum, a mess, or a sink full of dishes waiting to be washed.
Celebrate small wins. Did everyone get out of the house on time? That’s a win. Recognise the little victories — they matter more than you think.
Focus on connection, not perfection. Children value presence over perfection. What your children remember most is your attention and presence, not you trying to keep everything perfect.
Remember: Doing your best is enough. Let go of the idea that you have to do it all. Embrace the learning curve, care for yourself, and focus on creating a loving environment. That’s what your children will remember — not a perfect house, but the moments of love and laughter.
Slán go fóill … 👋